Friday 20 December 2013

THE CULTURE OF GIFT-GIVING

Throughout history, people have given other people gifts for all sorts of reasons. We usually refer to such gifts as presents because we present them to the receiver.

Jacob gave a present to his brother Esau, hoping that it would appease his very justifiable anger and pave the way for a reconciliation.

The present was 200 female goats, 20 male goats, 200 ewes, 20 rams, female camels with their young, 40 cows, 10 bulls, 20 female donkeys, and 10 male donkeys (Genesis 32:13-15).

A little bit too much to fit under a Christmas tree, don’t you think?

Abigail brought a present to David and his men when she realised that her husband had offended them. Her gift was 200 loaves of bread, two wineskins full of wine, five sheep that had been slaughtered, a bushel of roasted grain, 100 clusters of raisins, and 200 fig cakes (1 Samuel 25:18).

On other occasions, people brought gifts to honour a king. This was the intention of the Magi who came to see the baby Jesus in Bethlehem (Matthew 2:11).

In many cultures around the world today, gift giving is linked to special annual festivals and celebrations. Each culture mandates the sort of gift that is appropriate for each specific occasion. For instance, I’ve read that clocks, handkerchiefs and flowers are inappropriate gifts in China because they are all associated with death and funerals. Anyone planning a trip to Japan will be wise to study up on that country’s elaborately significant gift-giving rituals.

These days there are whole websites dedicated to the culture of gift-giving, what to do and what NOT to do. But the thing that is most important, ultimately, is not the gift but the attitude in which it is given. The key words here are respect and appreciation.

If there is such a thing as a Christian culture of gift-giving, may I suggest that it will go beyond just giving what is expected, giving because you have to. It will not be about impressing the other person or showing off. Rather, it will be prayerful, thoughtful and gracious, motivated and wrapped in the pure love of God.

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